DistantJ makes an emo topic!, No whining, just requesting input/advice

I'm thinking of breaking up with my current girlfriend.

She's this native American girl (though she lives in the UK a few miles from me), but she's really sort of shy and polite and I'm kinda the first relationship she's had in a long time and she doesn't get many boyfriends. She's not exactly the slimmest girl I've been with y'see, but I looked past that.

I haven't seen her in like a month, and she doesn't seem to be bothering to make the effort. I know she's busy with exams blah blah blah but other couples manage to see each other then.

She's so 2 dimensional. No personality. Always "I don't mind", "If you want", "It's up to you", and recently she seems to have lost her enthusiasm for everything. She won't even come over to my place, she's 'not ready'. Hell, she won't even tell her Mum yet. She's 18 (or 19? I'm not sure) for god's sake.

And I'm finding myself less and less attracted to her...

Maybe I could go back to my wardrobe shopping phase (heh, for some reason I stopped a few months back when we met, I guess it felt like I didn't need to impress anybody anymore) to really bring out the best in myself before September when I go back to college. I really enjoyed that phase, lol, the whole metrosexual thing rules. XD. With all the money I'm making now I can easily afford all the wardrobe shopping, and maybe even that jacket I've been wanting...

She's holding me back, too... I have become sort of unenthusiastic about life and my hobbies because of her and having to wait for her all the time and it being pretty mediocre when I do get to see her, I've been resorting to my videogame fix like all the time instead of moving forward in life, booking my driving lessons (yeah I'm coming up to 21 years old and I can't drive, wanna fight about it?) et cetera.

I think I need my life back.

See, thing is though, I've only ever really done the breaking up once or twice before, usually I'm the one being dumped, lol, so I'm not exactly sure how to do it without upsetting her, cause she does like me a lot. It's not been that long but she seemed pretty determined that this would turn into something.

I'm pretty confused about it. Any advice or anything?

Can't believe I'm posting this on MFGG, hah, but it's like the only forum I visit these days.

Say your heart no longer runs smooth like river, but trods along like buffalo.

The spirit of the buffalo flows strong in him.

Wait, I just got it, cause she's Native American. Hahah.

You should hear the jokes the barman at the pub says. "Has she been sending you any smoke signals recently?" gawd XD

This post has been edited by DistantJ on May 30 2006, 06:31 PM

I'm pretty sure that, if she doesn't seem to enthusiastic throughout your relationship, I doubt she'd mind a break up.

It's not like that though, she just, I dunno.

Seems like you allready have a clear cut idea of what you want to do.

Go for it, break up with her, tell her how you feel.

Break up with her. She'll take it well if she cares about your feelings. If she does take it well, then you'll have more time to meet new people/regroup with her. It'll give her time to think as well.

This seems like a pretty simple case of "you should break up with her." It doesn't seem like the relationship is doing anything good for either of you.

I would tell you what I think you should do but you already seem to know.

Oh all girls do that. They think they're being good and polite but really they're just putting the pressue of choice on us!!

I don't know, it seems she might get depressed from it if you do.

Cutman is right. Maybe your foolish male brain can't understand girls? You said you've been dumped before hint hint.



By the way; anyone who posts relationship problems on MFGG needs to cling to any girl that they're in the slightest relationship with.

She might not have a phone and resort to that :o lol.

If she's not interested, then it's time for you to ditch.